5 Foods never to eat…Bananas?!?!

Almost three years after writing this post and the mindfulness/love fest/alignment continues.
White bread & milk chocolate are no longer my crack, I eat every single thing that I love, minus what used to breathe- I love animals as they are, still breathing, still full of life.
And a banana’ll do once in a while 😉

#alignment #freedom
#fucktherules

This Little Cookie

As per the picture-I did exactly that.
I stopped eating bananas, and at one point, all fruit. Tomatoes too as well as carrots, & root vegetables, because they contained “too much sugar,” albeit natural…Oh, but all those items are high on the almighty glycemic index.

Ludacrous? Yes, I agree.

I had a six pack and I was lean(er) than now, though, truth be told, I wasn’t satisfied. Not satisfied with my life, that is.

There was a wonderful man by my side, my body was in great shape, but something in my mind still sucked, dreaded, loathed, denied….

I’d see images like the one pictured above, and go with it. Knowing, or rather, believing, that eating a banana would spike my insulin, causing me to gain fat blah blah blah. I talked about hormones and the importance of food in my TEDx speech, which, if I was given another…

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…but, Who Are You..? 

It was after watching the epic documentary “Dr. Strange,” a couple of nights ago, that these very words came to me:

Who are you without your partner?
Who are you without your parents?

Who are you without your brothers & sisters-
who are you without your children?

Who are you without your family?
Who are you without your friends?

Who are you without your pet-
that dog to walk, that cat to pet?

Who are you without your colleagues & job?
Who are you without your boss?

Who are you when you’re standing naked in the shower-
Who do you become?


Without everyone and everything, who do you become? What do you do?
What do you not do?

Who do you become?


A few weeks back, I asked the woman at the counter, who was assessing the particulars of my passport for renewal, if she loved her job.

“It’s ok,” she responded.

“What would you LOVE to do,” I then asked?

“To help people,” she said, an answer that so many people come back with.

Is this you? Is it your calling to help others?

My question to you is: 
Who are You, beautiful one, when there is no one to help? 
Who do you become? 

Much love, as always,
xxManj ❤

PS: Do watch Doctor Strange– there’s a good dose of “reality” in there. 😉

 

 

Alignment: The Root of Happiness 

It was only a short time ago that this picture ended up on the doorstep of my heart. Sent along by someone very special, moments after I saw it, I attached the quote by Ram Dass, and shared it on social media.

When I first came across the quote, a couple of years back, from the moment I read it, sat deep in my heart as absolute truth.

It makes sense, doesn’t it?

If I go into the place in myself that is love,
And you go into the place in yourself that is love,
We are together, in love.

Then you and I are truly in love-
The state of being in love.

That is the entrance to Oneness.

I do. I love these words beyond measure…actually, it’s more so how they make me feel- a deep sense of resonance with all that I am- at peace.

When you become love, that is what you attract.

To those of you looking for the perfect soulmate, longing for that perfect person to show up on the doorstep of your own heart, first become the living embodiment of that which you desire…

Take the time, get aligned. Fall in love with yourself, over and over again. In getting aligned, and striving to make that your goal as often as you can remember, happiness awaits in abundance. Smile :*

God bless You ❤
xxManj

PS: I would very much love to give credit to the artist who did this sketch – it was the perfect thing at the perfect time for infinite reasons. Thank YOU ❤

 

 

 

Self-Love & February

Butterfly Spirit!

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The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.–Nicholas Sparks

It’s February and we all know what happens on February 14th, Valentine’s Day! I’m a romantic at heart, I adore love songs, have watched every romantic comedy movie, and like all things love inspired. I cannot get enough of this topic. I often think what if Valentine’s Day was celebrated every day of the year? Wouldn’t it be so nice if we appreciated our significant other, family, friends, co-workers on a daily basis? The feeling of love would be shared everywhere and felt instantaneously. In essence, Valentine’s Day should be celebrated each day of our lives. This being said, let us not forgot the sacred relationship with ourselves. This is…

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Martyrdom

We’re on to number three in the “Tuesday’s With Manj” first series and this one’s about martyrdom, and more to the point about YOU acting as a martyr for the good of everyone else around you, whilst you suffer inside.

If you wish to view the video, you can do so on facebook by clicking on the picture below, or here for Youtube.

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Martyrdom was a reoccurring theme in numerous conversations this past week- and first of all, I’d like to give thanks to the contributors of this video- you know who you are. ;*

Martyrdom is all fine and well, when it’s coming from a place of absolute love – Gandhi and Mother Teresa come to mind when I think of the word- though that’s not the kind of martyrdom I’m referring to in the video.

 What I’ve noticed is that we’ve got an epidemic of (false) martyrdom going on. In observing, conversing with and listening to others, I’ve picked up on this and asked myself “why?”

Why do we do things for the betterment of others, at the expense of ourselves?  (Again, it’s fine and well if you do something for someone with all your heart, but my darling, if there’s an ounce of unease associated with what you’re about to sacrifice yourself for, please think twice, and consider putting yourself first).  Is it because we feel obligated? 
Is it because we’re afraid of looking selfish, or what others might think in general if we might say “no?” 
Is it because we want to be polite and nice and kind? Fear of rejection?

Why not make yourself the obligation?

Why not be polite and nice and kind to yourself?

It doesn’t make you a bad person to put yourself first,but we do know what happens when we put others ahead of us right?

When in service to others and sacrificing ourselves, for a little while we’re fine, going along with the plot, and then things get weird right?

Resentment builds, and we have conversations in our minds about “being nice, I’m a nice person, nice people do things for others…” but that all ends after a while longer, and we find ourselves swimming in a pool of bitterness, then we get angry, so very angry that we throw things around, we throw tantrums, awful words come hurling out of our mouths towards our partner or colleague etc. We have a melt down, blame others for our state, when really, we caused it all by being dishonest to ourselves. 

 I thank my lucky stars for my husband, Juraj, because that was me, having the ultimate meltdown some months ago, and he literally sat there, patient as heck (to my chagrin- you know what that’s like when you’re having a freak out, and the person you’re freaking out on just won’t engage, and sits there with a smile to boot!). I can honestly say that I wanted to actually throw something at him, or even throw him out the window (I’m laughing now, but wasn’t then), but I’m glad none of that happened. He calmly got up, said he was going for a walk, and headed out the door.  He saw it all, the niceness, not putting myself first – though he often reminds me to- and just waited for me to catch up with myself. 

 I’m grateful to my husband for not giving up on me, for knowing that I’d find my way through the gunk in my mind, and here we are. 🙂 God bless you love. ❤

 Perhaps the throwing and yelling doesn’t resonate with you (it happens rarely, and not something I’m at all proud of), but it happened, and I asked a lot of questions of myself.

 I got in touch with my inner martyr and instead beating the crap out of it (myself), -as we so often do, without knowing, I had a conversation with It, and from that came a whole new practice.

 I’ve learned to really put myself first, and say “no,” when I need to. That doesn’t mean to say that I never do anything for anyone else ever. I still often put others needs in front of my own, my parents for example – bless them – as I’m here in their space, more often than not, I’ll drop what I’m doing to do something with/for them, and sometimes I just ask for their patience, that I’m working on something- “please may we/I do it later,” or even, “I will do it for you, but it won’t be today, mom.”  

 So again, you can still do things for others, before doing things for you, but let’s call it something other than sacrifice, let’s call it making a conscious decision to put someone ahead of us.

Let’s call it love and honor and respect for everyone- with no strings attached. What does that look like? 

Someone asks you for something and it doesn’t quite resonate with you, but you consciously choose not to say no.

You very consciously act, not out of obligation, or to be nice. You’re allowed that too, you see- just be conscious.

You can even be “negative” though as long as you’re conscious about it, you’re not “screwing up your energy/vibration.” And on that note, should you decide to go ahead with whatever it is you didn’t totally want to do, but consciously did anyhow, you might just find it turns into a beautiful experience that it fed your heart and soul in ways you couldn’t imagine. That’s conscious living my friends. I couldn’t sit here and tell you this without living it, and I have over and over again. 

If Jesus said,

“Do unto others as you would have done unto you,”

I ask you to consider this:

“Do unto Yourself, as you would have others do unto You.

 Love yourself first, for the (eventual) betterment of all. You first. 

If you’re looking for love, 
Be the love for yourself that no one else can be and only you know how to be for you.

 If you’re looking for support, 
Be the support for yourself that no one else can be and only you know how to be for you.

If you’re looking for praise, admiration, adoration, 
Be the praise, admiration, adoration, for you that no one else can be, or knows how to be for you.

 By starting with these practices, you will be amazed and surprised over and over again (at first), at how others will have changed towards you. When you begin to practice being the love/praise/adoration/admiration for yourself that you’d previously desired/expected from others, others will respond. You will start to emit a different frequency, a frequency of love, and my dear, that is what you will attract.

Let’s just keep practicing ok? We didn’t learn how to walk in a heartbeat, and as infants, deeply connected to source, it just happened. Have faith, you’ll get there, but come to here and now first.

Lots of love to you ❤

DIY Fashion 

A few weeks ago, cupid’s arrow struck me, and in a few hours, I had this top.
Does that make sense?

I used to think of being struck by cupid’s arrow to mean that someone or I has fallen in love.
I did. I have. I do – over and over again.

Creating this top, was for no rhyme or reason, just that I was drawn to it. I tapped into my imagination, played, had a great deal of fun in doing so, and done. Now that the process is over, I could really care less about it all- it was all about the good feeling journey of it, which led me to other things, which as soon as I hit the “publish” button, in a few moments, I’m off to create something I’ve had my mind on.

You see, what’s so cool about this, is that I’ve come to realize that the things that I do, be it (re)creating an item of clothing, or delightful pleasures for all kinds of taste buds, or even working with others- it’s all one in the same for me.

I reach for the most fun stuff that’s within my range to make this top.
Already tasting in my mind, what I’m to conjure up, it usually ends up as such.
When working with others, my heart and mind make connections that are just the right thing for that person, listening, tweaking, feeling just the right thing to say, or not to say, to do, or not to do.

And, if I may say, all of the above is no different from the beautiful feeling of bliss when in (the state of) love with my partner, and hence making love is pure ecstatic creation, elation, profound richness…It’s all the same to me- it’s all love. 

..I digress- back to the heart top, shall we?

This cute little number, came about very organically, as in, I saw the fabric, held it up to myself, got a semblance of what I was going to do and it all just came about. Even with my fashion design background, I didn’t use measuring tapes and such.

Step 1- I found a piece of fabric, folded it in half to see if the length would work for me – it did – and if the width too, was ok- it was.
What you see above is the entire piece I used to make the top.
There were only two seams that held the whole thing together, along the sides.


Step 2- I’ve only just refold the top along the shoulder/neck line.
I cut a slit along that top fold, so my hit could fit through and did no shaping to it.


Step 3- I pulled my notions along as I was making the top, like adding herbs and spices to my food creations and this is all that I ended up with.
(Indeed I am my mothers daughter, she being the inspirateur behind my designing. She’s fully stocked with machines, fabrics, notions, you name it, mum’s got it. 😉 )

 


Step 4- the finishing of one sleeve was this lovely black lace which I sewed atop of white elastic (non- functional, but thought it was terribly cute, right? ;), and it was all held in place by red thread.


Step 5 – the other sleeve – which I kept on the simpler side – took on this lovely red fabric I found lying around. And see that? The adorable buttons on the edge of one side of the neckline.


Step 6 – the other side of the neckline adorns loose strips of the red (which finished the neckline), as well as a black velour bow – which admittedly doesn’t show up so well in the pic.


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tep 7 – Almost done. The very last thing I did, (which happened to be the very first idea I had when I got into mind I was making a top), was to place this red heart close to my own. 😉 Looking a little naked, I found this role of black transparent nylon cut on bias, which begged for me to use it. Fit like lingerie on my beautiful shiny heart. 😉


C’est tout. 😉 All done and it turned out more delicious than I first imagined. Go figure 😉

 


This Little Cookie- hey, that`s me. 🙂 Where`s your heART at?

Good. All done, now I can go play with something else. Aquafaba’s been on my mind for too many days. I’ll let you google that. 😉

Go play, and have fun with all that you do. That’s truly how we move mountains, change and create worlds- our inner world, that is. More on that tomorrow in the third installment of “Tuesday’s With Manj: Martyrdom.”

Much peace love and fun to you,

xxManj 

PS: It took everything in me not to edit these pictures. The perfectionist in me is fading away. I like that.