I carry on posting the second installment of Tuesday’s With Manj: IT’S OK TO FEEL WHATEVER YOU’RE FEELING- . The Facebook live version can be seen here, or click the picture below to view on Youtube.
( If you missed the first one “Victim/Self-Pity, you can read/tune into it here.)
Follow up thoughts:
For so much of our lives we’re told not to feel sad, or not to be angry, to get over whatever’s bothering us, to “get a life,” when really what we need to be told is something along the lines of “I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, let’s hear it,” without judgement. All we really need to know is that what we’re going through is ok.
This is something I find myself saying more and more to not just myself, but anyone around me, who’s seems to be in need.
How about that? What if right now, whatever it is you’re going through and trying so hard to resist, I gave you permission to fully feel your way through it?
That doesn’t mean that you have permission to lash out at anyone around you- what’s going on in you, is going on in you. (By all means lash out, curse, do what you need to do in regards to another, within the comfort of your mind, very very honestly. And I remind you to do your inner dialogue by allowing yourself whatever you are feeling towards someone else, be it hate, frustration, pity, anger- feel it consciously).
Our emotions are very much a part of us, just like our physical body. In regards to the story with one of my best friends and her little one, can you imagine that you are your own child, and when things are going wrong, to treat yourself as such? Treat yourself like you would a small child in pain, who’s crying seems to have no end.
What is our need to wear such a brave face on the outside, when we have crying child inside. What good does that do anyone at all? It doesn’t matter how old we are, or tough, male or female- emotions are emotions, we all have them, and if we’re not dealing with them, (as we’ve been programmed by our family -who were programmed by theirs- by the school system, by media, by peers etc etc), they’re stuck inside of us.
Must you know what is “stuck” inside of you in order to let it out?
Must you analyze the heck out of your childhood to see where things went wrong?
Must you look into every failed relationship to decipher reoccurring patterns?…
Perhaps you must, but you do not have to.
My dear, whatever has gone on in your life, YOU HAVE SURVIVED IT ALL, bless you.
We are here and now- you’ve made it this far. Keep going, and see if you can alter your perspective just a little, by allowing everything you feel.
Use this template when ever you feel something not so good happening to you and even around you: “I allow myself to feel ———.” Keep going with whatever comes up, until you find your peace and balance again.
If you no longer know what it feels like to be in balance, there’s no better time to start than right now.
Baby steps, ok? Trust me, I’ve been in your shoes. If you’re questioning your life, your purpose, you’re on the right track. The beginning is the toughest, and you’re cracking through that now – or wherever you may be on your spiritual journey- it gets better and better as you become more and more aware of You, and the greatness that you are.
Sending you all lots of love, and thanks again for coming along.
PS: A great film to watch to see the anatomy of emotions in a brilliant way is “Inside Out,” directed by Pete Docter, & Ronnie del Carmen.